Sunday, April 23, 2006

20,000 and your virginity restored??!!! Where are we heading to ??

Yeah its true.Just Rs 20,000 and women will have their hymens replaced by a small surgery.This surgery is called hymenoplasty.This has clandestinely started a few years back in Ahmedabad.The plastic surgeons have stated that even people from the west have started to make enquiries.Sooner rather than later they are bound to commercialize this for monetary gains.
Sociologists are up in arms against this and blame the doctors for keeping the people in the dark about sex.In India sex has never remained a taboo ,only talking about it has remained a taboo,otherwise how will you justify the rising number of cases of HIV+ patients .People who have tried to break free in this regard have meet opposition.For instance Kamalhaasan has several times stated on record that we need to be making films on sex to educate people,just by shirking away from it and not talking about it we are suffering .He has also stated in an column in the Chronicle dt.27-12-05 that the Government must consider lowering the marital age so that by the time they are inquisitive about sex they are married and needn't worry about contracting diseases.Another glorious example of resistance to people who have spoken out is the case of Kushbu&Suhasini.The so called protectors of Tamil culture PMK and DPI are now sitting in rival camps.The PMK which is part of the DPA must first exit it on the grounds that people like Karunanidhi are not helping their cause by having several wives.
In the first place absence of hymen does not indicate that the women is not a virgin.There are several other ways by which the hymen is broken,not only the first intercourse.
There are several issues which are thrown up.One is all this talk of virginity only with women.The government must immediately step in and ban this surgery forthright else.This further highlights the hypocratic attitude of the male community.While they want their wives to be untouched,they indulge in all sorts of pre-marital sexual practices.Not that extra marital or pre marital sex is uncommon in India,but the expectations of the males are unrealistic in todays society where almost every boy or girl would have had a pre marital affair of some sort.If you see most of the Hindu Gods are flanked by many wives be it Vishnu or his son-in-law Murugan.I'm not ridiculing them but we have worshipped those kind of people for ages.While Ahalya,Renuka,Sita...... were all punished by their husbands for not being chaste,never were Indra,Krishna,Arjuna,Bhima..... .This in a way says how we've treated our women and all the talk of women being held in high regard in the good old times is only humbug.
While more and more money is pumped into India in the name of IT along with it comes other western practices of exchanging partners,one night stands and what not.While we are ready to accept the money greedily we have to tackle these kinds of problems as well.Sex is cause for all misery ,as we know the story of Adam and Eve.Sex is also the reason why each one of us are here and there is no reason why young men and women must feel embarassed to discuss about it at appropriate forums.(That is one of the reasons I've spoken out on this issue.)The responsibility of this lies at the hands of the media which includes cinema.Cinema must play a very major role in these kinds of matters.People like Rajnikanth can maybe act as nice guys in movies and provide wholesome entertainment but they ought to fulfill their obligations to the society.By canvassing for causes such as AIDS he will only better the lives of so many young minds.
All this only re-iterates why we should have education about sex at high school and college.THIS is the only way we are going to overcome myths.Co-education must also be made a must.This also a major reason for all what is happening in the society right now rape,eve-teasing etc..,

As concluding remarks I would like to state the all this talk of virginity must go at once.All that matters is sincerity of partners and pure love.Ultimately ANBE SIVAM.
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8 comments:

Anonymous said...

If at all, the breaking of hymen is the only evidence of a women being a virgin or not, then the so called test for virginity is itself humbug. Then what is the guarantee that the hymen which is replaced will not break for reasons other than sex???? According to me it lies in being sincere to yourself and also to those around you. These men believe the virginity test reports more than the words of the one they love?? Ridiculous! belief is all life is about! believe ppl and be truthful to those who believe you and life will definitely be its best! this is my opinion...

Anonymous said...

u talk abt sex education and teaxhing blut sex in sxhools..its the most wanted thing as of now as there are many misconceptions regarding sex among the younger generations...but...as the saying goes...true education must start at home..will u talk about ur doubts regarding sex to ur parents??that is the first hurdle we ought to overcome!so first think bout overcoming that hurdle and propose ideas in a wider base such as schools and colleges..

and comin to colleges..will ur english prof allow u to debate on sex as a topic for the general debate??or will YOU argue wid her for not allowing to debate on it??

think on a smaller base before movin on to a broader horizon man!!

Anonymous said...

u talk abt sex education and teaching about sex in schools..its the most wanted thing as of now as there are many misconceptions regarding sex among the younger generations...but...as the saying goes...true education must start at home..will u talk about ur doubts regarding sex to ur parents??that is the first hurdle we ought to overcome!so first think bout overcoming that hurdle and propose ideas in a wider base such as schools and colleges..

and comin to colleges..will ur english prof allow u to debate on sex as a topic for the general debate??or will YOU argue wid her for not allowing to debate on it??

think on a smaller base before movin on to a broader horizon man!!

sorry..posted the comment again due to typing errors in my previous comment[:)]

Anand G said...

As far as talking to parents goes i see no reason why we must not.And for the debate thing...if there is a proper debate no right minded english teacher or college management will oppose but in the name of talking abt sex we talk of sensousness and sexual acts... and unfortunately so do so many of the staffs..so first educate the staff on how to talk to students about this from a scientific angle and not as an entertaining angle..its true sex sells like hot cakes now adays ...to college students its an act of pleasure . they donot seem to have anyother view to it.Who is responsible for this..The celluloid in a huge manner....why cannot the youth icons ...vijay vikram surya rajinikanth......and others talk about this in the open...is it not enough if they maintain their image as a family heroes on screen.

Anonymous said...

Hey, guess misto.g.karthi doesn know how u relish takin-the-profs-by-the-horns. wonder if he'd've doled out that english-class-debate line if he'd known bout ur exploits within ur dept:)

Anonymous said...

good da. finally u have found an outlet for ur emotions.i totally agree with u on the sex education part.there are a lot of guys in my class who giggle even now when the topic of sex comes up.keep writing da.

Anonymous said...

good to see u writing da anand..nice post..keepp writing

vikram (12b)

arvi said...

Lower the marriage age???
Does any1 want to see child marriage all over again??

Let children be children dammit...sure, they're gonna be inquisitive about sex ..
let them explore and find out on their own... after all, we did just fine :-D